A gorgeous socialite, fashion stylist and entrepreneur born from a rich and prestigious family, Toyin Lawani, has advised women who block their ex-husbands from seeing their children as a form of punishment. In her words, she said “You can’t replace a dad, no matter what.”

Lawani tapped into the psychological trauma a child who grows up in a divided home suffers. According to her, a child who grows up in such a home would end up thinking that is how life should be. However, she conceded that some men are deadbeat fathers, but insisted that a mother cannot replace a child’s father, no matter how hard she tries to.

Sharing a photo of her child’s father, Lord Trigg, on her Instagram handle, tiannahsplacempire, she advised “fighting” parents to put up a united front in-front of their kids.

Lawani wrote:

A lot of people Don’t realize the meaning of Friendship, it’s about understanding, you don’t have to jump into bed with each other, knowing you have brought a great thing to life , for the betterment and mental state of The being that didn’t beg you people to Bring he or she to life , you have to make it all work out, you don’t have to be close ,but you can let them feel fatherly love, if a kid grows up in a divided home, they will grow up thinking like that and acting like that,and that’s how they will treat women, but when you show a United form infront of them , they will know better , even when you turn back 5secs later and corse each other out, you must find the inner strength to show up for important things for your kids.

No woman can ever replace the space of a father in life, no matter how you try or how hard we work we can’t replace dads, men will always fuck up, some won’t even support in caring of the kid and feel entitled and even if you replace their fathers space with a Good role model, they will still grow up knowing that aint their papa,but you have to look past that and Show a United form for your kids.. Great leaders weren’t made in a day , they were trained from young .

Their thinking and upbringing matters a lot. Eg trump and his wife the way they behave publicly and Obama and his wife the way they behave publicly, for Obama you will know love leads, so how can you ask someone like trump to show love to other countries, when the man don’t know the 1st word of love amongst his family, take a moment and think about it.

This is to everyone out there hurting or regretting, let go and see what God will bring into your life, unlimited happiness, a sad person can never make anyone else happy in life. Make your kids happy, women need to stop blocking kids from their dads as form of punishment, na dem offend you?

Justin Nwosu

Justin Nwosu is the founder and publisher of Flavision. His core interest is in writing unbiased news about Nigeria in particular and Africa in general. He’s a strong adherent of investigative journalism, with a bent on exposing corruption, abuse of power and societal ills.